Non-monogamy can be a wonderful way to look at ourselves, our needs, wants and desires and create our own maps to figure out what works for us in building relationships.

There is not one way to do non-monogamy, though the myth of white supremacy tricks us into thinking so. The key to non-monogamy is knowing who you are and where you come from and having a communication and consent practice that empowers you to find compatibility: the people who see you and get you. 

This Course is For You If:

This course is for people who are trans, intersex, non-binary, gender non-conforming, and gender queer, and their partners. Folks who are nonmonogamous, solo poly and single are welcome, if they identify in these categories. Straight, cis, het identified folks are only welcome if they are in a partnership with folks in the above defined identities. 

In this class we will explore our own ancestry as queer and trans folks, learn how to identify and communicate needs and boundaries, and learn how to navigate both simple and complex relationship agreements. We will also explore the ways that the myth of white supremacy and the history of rape patriarchy has influenced the difficulties of navigating nonmonogamy in the world and in queer and trans bodies, and how to make our connections with ourselves and our partners life-giving and full of joy. 

How do we, as queer and trans folks, build nonmonogamy that works for us? What are the models that we can follow? And where do we begin?

This is how. This is where.

What's Included in the Course

• Every course participant will learn how to build a land and people acknowledgement practice
• Every course participant will learn how to build relationships with their queer ancestors and will be able to scaffold those relationships into powerful connections with themselves and their partners
• Expertise, knowledge and skills from nonmonogamy practitioners, educators and activists on the frontline of the Black liberation movement and the consent culture movement
• A practice community of other anti-racist trans and queer folks and accomplices who are as deeply committed to doing the work as you are
• Skills, practice, and support as you build your Nonmonogamy Agreement skills and process generational trauma through the lens of liberation philosophy and body-based healing and forgiveness practices
• Each course participant will also receive access to study group and office hours with the instructors and other activists, facilitators, and nonmonogamous community members

In a country founded on the myth of white supremacy, heteronormativity and monogonormativity, an economic system founded on slave capitalism, and a marketing system based on rape patriarchy, we have to go against the tide, on purpose. Otherwise we will be replicating those systems, even if we are good people who don't want to or mean to.

Course Schedule 

Thursdays (Online Only)
Lesson 1:00-2:00PM PST
Study Group 2:15-3:00PM PST

Course Begins Thursday, March 9th and runs through May 11th.

The will be no class sessions on March 30th or April 6th due to local public school spring breaks.

Pricing Options

One Time Payment

This gives you access to the exclusive community and 8 week course and study sessions.

Bring a Friend Pricing

You may use this option to bring a personal friend, or if you are in a financial position to "pay it forward," you may use this option to create a space for someone who may not be able to afford the call. Include in your payment notes the name and email address of your friend, or "Donate" if you are donating a spot.

Discount Pricing

You may use the discounted pricing link if you have financial need. This is on an honor system with no application process or proof required. When you submit your payment, please share one sentence in the notes about why you qualify. This helps us ensure the program is working as intended. 

We encourage you to consider any privilege you hold (race, gender, class, etc) and your earning potential - not just your current financial situation - when selecting discounted pricing.
Paying the full amount if you can helps to subsidize those who can’t afford to. 

Need a Payment Plan?

Have questions or need a scholarship or other payment plan?

Email: [email protected]

What is PEACE Out Loud?

Peace, Education, Arts & Creation for Everyone.

Peace Out Loud is based in South Berkeley, Oakland, and San Francisco, California and is a neighborhood social permaculture project of building self-determined community through youth programs and adult coaching programs. As educators, we are committed to creating the conditions for all families to comfortably grow into being their full selves.  As social permaculturists, we identify the needs in our community and co-create programs in response to those needs. Our team is composed of Black, Brown, queer, trans and poor people with a passion for care, social justice and playfulness!

Peace Out Loud was co-founded by Ira X Armstrong (FKA Nanci Armstrong Temple), an activist, educator, organizer and social permaculturist. They are the child of a Black revolutionary/former Black Panther father and a white abolitionist Unitarian Universalist Mother. Ira has worked as an educational anthropologist and activist with over 20 years of experience as an educator. They have taught and begun music, dance, garden, coaching, and musical theater programs in Alameda, Oakland, Berkeley and Los Angeles unified school districts, Children’s Hospital Los Angeles, churches, the YMCA and street parties up and down the 101 and back.  

Peace Out Loud is for obliterating all forms of oppression. Our courses are not for those who are queerphobic, transphobic, homophobic, fatphobic, abelist, unless you are here because you are seeking to unpack and undo those forms of oppression. We do not believe that one form of oppression can be undone while oppressing other groups. We are for complex and nuanced conversations around challenging and often emotionally charged areas of life. You are responsible for taking care of yourself as you engage in this work and in these group dynamics and discussions. 

Our organization Peace Out Loud also offers a series of free healing sessions, a Bail Fund, and cash relief for BIPOC Activists who have been tirelessly showing up during this critical historical time.